Anger and Aggression
Everyone has felt anger or aggression
many times in there life. It happens all of the time. We all face the same
challenge of trying to control our temper. It may be easier for some people than
it is for others. Many studies show that it is healthy for a person to let out
their anger once in a while. They believe that it will help in your relationship
with others and that it will increase your self-esteem. They also believe that
holding anger in is bad and unhealthy for your body. If you let the anger build
up it could go from just being a verbal argument to a point in which someone or
something is hurt or destroyed. To control your anger you should release your
aggression in a way that is not harmful to others or yourself. People that look
into a problem more closely can control their anger better. These people get all
of the facts and make a proactive decision. Also by looking into the problem
your may find out that it wasn't as bad as you first thought. Looking into the
problem will also help you look at the consequences of the action you are going
to take. Researchers also believe that tv and movies have an impact on the ways
we release our aggression. They believe that in some way we are all influenced
in some way by movies and tv shows that we watch. If we can learn to control our
anger we will see that our life, and everyone else's life is a lot safer and
more peaceful.
Some people may ask, "What causes a person to feel angry?"
There are two answers to the question. The first is that you may feel angry with
yourself or something that you may have done. The second is that you may be
angry at another person or object. Some people may refer to feeling angry with
yourself as internal anger and anger towards another person as external anger.
An example of internal anger is that you did not do as good as you wanted to do
on your test. An example of external anger is getting into an argument with a
friend. There are different ways of dealing with your anger. The best way is to
go right to the person that you are feeling angry with and talk to them about
it. Although this is the best way it may not always be an option for the
situation you are in. If you are angry with yourself you should find a friend
and talk to them about it and get it off your mind so you don't build up your
anger. Building up your anger is an example as well, but it is probably the
worst choice. Many people do this because they are afraid of hurting the
feelings of the other person. However, when people build up their anger it
usually seems to hurt their relationship with the other person. Also it is not
easy to hold in your anger because people that are close to you can tell when
you are feeling angry. Some people may not realize themselves that they are
feeling angry. One way to tell if you are angry is if you are short tempered.
Violent feelings are also ways of realizing that you are feeling angry. Some
people may be able to tell by physical symptoms. Some people get an upset
stomach, headaches, and ulcers. Your body can usually tell when something is
wrong. When you are going to let out your aggression you have to make a decision
if it is the right place and the right time to show your feelings. Sometimes you
are with a large group of people and it may not be the right time to let out
your angry feelings. It is best to find a place that is quiet and a place where
you can talk to someone about your feelings. It is much easier to express your
anger if you trust the person. That does not mean that you have to trust the
person, all you need to do is trust yourself. Their are a few steps that may
help people to learn more about their angry feelings. The first step is to find
out what is making you feel angry. It may be family, work, or friends. The next
step is to locate the source. This means that you need to find out if it is
internal anger or external anger. Then you need to find the right time and place
to talk about your feelings. This is the third step. The fourth, and final step
is to tell the person in the easiest and most simple way possible. The person
may not always react the way that you want, but you just have to remember that
you expressed your anger and it is they have to deal with it.
The teen years
are a very difficult time for all families. Teens are starting to grow up and
try new things that their parents may not approve of. This creates anger in the
parents as well as the teens. The teens anger may be out of control at times and
they may do dangerous things. Such as using drugs and drinking alcohol, they may
make criminal acts or even attempt suicide. These actions are symptoms of
disruptive disorders. This is a large illness that affects many people under the
age of eighteen. A study showed that 9 percent of all boys, and 2 percent of all
girls under 18 are affected by a disruptive disorder. Disruptive disorders are
put in two groups. The oppositional defiant disorder is when a teen has a bad
temper and resists being disciplined without hurting the rights of other people.
The conduct disorder has many of the same symptoms but these actions hurt the
rights of other people. Parents may not be able to tell if their child has a
disorder because the are in denial or the might be angry themselves. There are
some things that a parent can look for to tell if their teen has a disorder.
Some signs are if the teen breaks rules all of the time and stays out past
curfew. Another sign is a teen that has ran away from home. If lose their temper
easy or get in trouble at school a lot they might have a disorder. If they get
in lots of fights and get in trouble with the law they may have some symptoms of
a disorder. A big sign is if they have talked about or attempted suicide. If a
situation goes untreated for a long time it may result in aggressive behavior.
Studies have shown that their are some factors that are seen in most disorders.
One factor is the environment the teen has grown up in. An example is a divorce,
and the teen may believe it is their fault. Psychiatric disorders can also help
cause disruptive disorders. Their are also Medical and biological factors that
may have an effect. Some other factors are learning disabilities. Also drug and
alcohol abuse can be symptoms of a disruptive disorder. If a parent believes
that their child may have a disruptive disorder they should have it checked out
right away. They can get set up for treatment. Some methods of treatment are
individual counseling, family counseling, group therapy, and medication. Parents
can also help the teen control their aggressions and help them let it out in
healthy ways. They can show them different ways to deal with anger. They can use
prevention and try to stop the problem before it gets to far. They can also use
crisis management such as a sitting down and talking about the problem with the
child. Another method is time-outs this will help give the parents and the child
a chance to cool down. The best method for parents is to be a good role model
for the children. If they show good ways of dealing with anger their children
may do the same. A parent is the person who children look up to as they are
growing up.
Bibliography
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http://www.allsands.com/Lifestyles/dealingwitha_apn_gn.htm
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Dealing with anger
http://www.counsel.ufl.edu/selfHelp/dealingWithAnger.asp
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http://www.mi-pathways.org/brochures/adolescent_agression.html